Tips for the first date and beyond. Red flags, hookups, communication, sabotaging behavior, and more...
Do you get nervous on dates? Be careful, you may be sending the wrong message to your date — that you’re not interested. The most common reason people get nervous is because they want their date to like them. Unfortunately, that is usually what causes the date to fail. If you …
If you know what red flags to look for in the beginning of a relationship then you can make a better decision about who is a keeper and who is just fun for right now. When you observe red flag behavior don’t ignore it. I promise you it will get worse if …
The question, “Why are you still single?” is highly inappropriate because it implies, “What’s wrong with you?” But try not to take offense to it and please don’t defend yourself. Simply respond with an empowered answer. You absolutely do not need to explain the details of why you haven’t gotten married yet. Bottom …
Being late tells the person you’re making wait for you that you don’t care about his or her feelings, and that you don’t respect their time. It lowers their opinion of you. When you’re late for a date, especially if it’s a first date, you risk making your date angry, and you’re certainly …
Dating after divorced can seem overwhelming. Yes, dating is very different now. If you were married for a long time it’s scary to think of getting back out there. I certainly understand your desire to just jump into another relationship for the safety of it. However, going out on lots …
Anything that you do frequently you’ll get better at. Practice makes perfect, right? It’s no different with dating. As you go out with a lot of different people you begin to stop getting nervous, you become less self-conscious, and it helps you stay grounded. All which then help you make …
A first date is supposed to be about enjoying each other’s company and finding out if you have chemistry and commonality—but also making sure you don’t do anything to turn your date off. Being an open book is not sexy! Talking too much or revealing too much too soon is …
If you’re too shy or uncomfortable to hold eye contact with someone you like then your body language is saying the opposite of what you feel. Your date will assume you’re just not into them if you’re not being attentive enough on dates. First dates can be scary and cause …
Energy is contagious. People want to surround themselves with positive people. If you complain a lot, are cynical, or are a hater you’re waving a major negative red flag to your date, and draining your date’s positive energy. You may not even recognize that you’re being negative. It’s common to …
Meeting for drinks has become the most popular first date option, especially if you meet online. Because you usually know within the first few moments of meeting if you have potential or not. If you like each other you can always extend the date by asking her if she’d like …
Many times when I try to help a client or friend see that their relationship is not good for them, their response is that all relationships have problems. Their view is that someone else will just bring another set of difficulties or even the same ones. So they might as
After 40 the best way to meet someone is online. However, the FBI warns that’s the target age for dating scammers. There in lies the catch 22 of being single after 40. But Donna Barnes Dating has Online Dating Protector to prevent you from being scammed. Our team of highly …
When a relationship doesn’t work out or ends badly, clients frequently ask me if there was something they should have seen in the beginning. The answer is almost always yes. But they were too caught up in the seduction to notice that it wasn’t a good fit. You have to …
Texting has changed relationships—and not for the better. There really does need to be a texting etiquette in the dating phase. I’m not a fan of rules but I do feel there needs to be one big bold rule about text messaging: NEVER send a text message to communicate emotions …
Do you know what to talk about on a first date? Do you even give any thought to it? If you’re having a lot of first dates but not many second or third dates you might want to stop just winging your conversation. You may be portraying yourself as superficial. …
